I am such an awful procrastinator. I have all these wonderful blog posts rattling around in my head, but I can't post them. Why? Because I'm behind in my blogging. Doesn't make sense, does it? See: I can't post about what happened the other day while pumping at work, because I haven't posted Ollie's 2 month pictures (or 3 months either, hell).
Working titles of the posts half formulated in my head:
- Pumping the boobs - tips and tricks, awkward moments at work, and the pressure of building a freezer stash
- 100 reasons why I love my son's dad
- I think I like my job!
- How does she DO that? a.k.a. Krista's "I'm not dealing with that shit" life
- OH the drama of my car
- Oliver's first Christmas (CRAP!)
- A hard habit to break
- Baby, you can have whatever you like
So here's the real problem: it's gone from "eh, I'll get to it this weekend" to "oh crap I am so far behind I'll never catch up, so screw it."
But I can't do that because I love writing and from what my family and friends say I'm good at it and they enjoy reading it. So I have to fix this. It may be a jumbled mess around here for a while, but I can't just give up (the way I have apparently given up scrapbooking *sob*) because I feel like if I don't keep up with some kind of chronicle of his life then I'll forget all the little moments that are just SO special... the same ones that keep me rushing home from work to be no more than inches away from him all evening.
But it's not just the blog. I haven't balanced the checkbook in two months. Yeah, the bills get paid (with the exception of the water bill because the stupid computer doesn't remind me and my lovely spiral bound calendar of when things are due is long buried - oops.) I hate knowing there are piles of papers, envelopes and receipts waiting to consume me.
I can't get organized because I'm SO unorganized. I still need to file our taxes, but if course how am I supposed to do that when there are bills to be organized and the computer room is in shambles?
I had to wear Nick's socks to work the other day for cryin' out loud! Would I rather stress myself out and run late in the morning than do a freaking load of laundry on a weeknight? Answer: no. But you can't tell from the state of my closet/hamper/laundry room!
And don't get me started on the dog hair, the inch of dust, the icky toilet, the coffee stained kitchen floor. The only reason the dishes ever get done is Nick the Amazing cleans the kitchen
before Ollie gets a bath!
In short, I feel like I'm failing at this whole working mom thing. I have no routine. I'm LAZY. There are so many women who get it right and I feel like I'm not one of them... but I could be.
Which brings me to my POINT du jour... what I realized the other night while laying in bed nursing him to sleep... if I just DO THE SHIT that's been bugging me and giving me that nagging feeling in the back of my brain every night, then my time spent with him will be that much BETTER!
I recalled this post from No Ordinary Rollercoaster (thanks Ben - no you don't know me but I lurk and intend to comment often) which I will paraphrase:
"The other day I had an epiphany... "DUDE. DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN ACTUALLY JUST DO STUFF AND THEN IT STOPS STRESSING YOU OUT?!?!?!"
What I wouldn't give to be stress-free, without this awful feeling that I'm being naughty by putting off the "important" household tasks that need attention. Dishes and laundry and vaccuuming are stupid, yes. But if I would just DO IT, then I could actually move on to more entertaining tasks like blogging, and packing up all the adorable tiny outfits that Oliver no longer fits into because OH MY God he is getting to be such a big boy with the holding his head up all the time and the SMILES...
... there I go again.
I just want to let my shoulders relax and enjoy being a mom. So I will. THIS WEEKEND. STARTING RIGHT NOW.
I will no longer be a lazy sack of crap. I will not let my OWN life overwhelm me anymore.
This blog will no longer suck.
I'm proud of you dear!ReplyDelete
I'm pretty much a procrastinator myself but I don't tell people that. A lot think I'm pretty prompt, must be how I get things done quick.ReplyDelete
Inspirational!! I am now headed into my laundry room and then who knows it usually snowballs. Thank You!ReplyDelete
Good start this weekend my love! We can do it we his gotta keep up the pace! I love you!ReplyDelete
That's the spirit! You are so right! I think you should enjoy yourself and enjoy your family. Being happy will help you make things go right.ReplyDelete
Dude. I was over here a few days ago and meant to comment but got distracted, probably by work? But now that we're sister-wives of Wil Wheaton I can't walk away and not comment, looming conference call or no looming conference call.ReplyDelete
By no means do I wish to discourage you from getting stuff done, because you're right, it will feel better if you just start (I do this exact same thing all the time) but I just wanted to give you permission to cut yourself some slack on the working mom thing.
My daughter is 14 months old, and there are days and weeks when things run the way they are supposed to. We stick to our routine, we get stuff done, we make it all come together.
Then there are days when it just doesn't. I think that being a 2 working parent household is a lot like starting your own business. You try to plan for everything so that when the wheels come off, the fewest things get impacted as possible. It's why our routine is so structured, so that when a piece needs to change, we can fold that change into the overall strategy for the day with as little impact to other parts as we can.
What I'm trying to say is, we've been doing this for almost a year now, and it's still a work in progress. I think that it always will be? And that's ok. So try not to think of yourself aas not having it together. You're working on it, you're progressing and you're making adjustments all the time. But, that's never going to stop, whether you're working or not. The sooner I made peace with that, honestly the more productive I became.
Good luck, sister wife.