tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741428981658989820.post5880287375021475316..comments2023-05-31T06:53:59.845-04:00Comments on NinjaPanza: I don't know everything, but I know what I want.Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03626726835869299905noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741428981658989820.post-822270361550167262011-08-30T12:29:20.505-04:002011-08-30T12:29:20.505-04:00Jen -
I am so sorry that I made you mad. The las...Jen - <br /><br />I am so sorry that I made you mad. The last thing I wanted was to come off like I thought I was better than you. <br /><br />I just wanted to put it out there that I have heard so many stories (including yours) about women being treated badly and being hurt and scared and that this is what's considered NORMAL. It's scary to me that what you went through can be considered routine or standard or whatever the hell.<br /><br />I know that I can't really plan for everything, and that I won't know exactly what will happen, but my goal is just to be as informed as possible for all the options, and be able to make decisions based on the information I have - which IS what you did - and honestly YOU HELPED ME with that. I don't know that my own birth story would have been such a learning experience for me, if I hadn't known about yours. <br /><br />Seeing and hearing your feelings and experiences as you healed (and continue to heal, I suspect) this past year made me dig deeper into my search for knowledge, and made me stronger in my determination to find out what I really want.<br /><br />I am just lucky that what I ended up wanting and being so passionate about was close to what I got.<br /><br />And I am so grateful that you are my friend, and that your happy, healthy, beautiful baby boy is here to give you joy. No matter how he got here, no matter how he ate during his first year, no matter what, he is perfect. You are an excellent mom, and I am so glad that we get to be moms together too!!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03626726835869299905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741428981658989820.post-45611805934338109792011-08-30T12:07:39.965-04:002011-08-30T12:07:39.965-04:00At first this post made me mad. Mad that I felt li...At first this post made me mad. Mad that I felt like you were sounding like you were better than everyone else with your natural birth club. Then the post made me cry. Cry becuase I could not have any of those experiences and I realized that was what made me so mad. So yeah, I ended up part of the long labor, endless pushing, c-section, too many drugs, stapled to death, bruised by terrible lactation nurses, bottle feeding club. And since that wasn't where I wanted to be, your post made me JEALOUS and ANGRY and CRY....then I sat there in my own pile of self guilt and realized...if I wan't part of my 'special' club then I wouldn't have a beautiful healthy baby boy that makes my world go round....and I SMILED and LAUGHED (and cried again from joy this time). So - plan all you want - go for the gusto - just remember, you never know what will happen and for ALL mothers the end goal is the same - a healthy baby. Which is the club we get to be in TOGETHER and I am so grateful to be there with you!!!!<br />Jen MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741428981658989820.post-69626724387454751062011-08-24T15:26:41.913-04:002011-08-24T15:26:41.913-04:00I'm totally shocked by how many people seem to...I'm totally shocked by how many people seem to do absolutely zero research. They call it "go with the flow" and I call it shocking. My friend is pregnant and she's often asking on Facebook if people did certain tests or had certain things planned for birth and every single time, the same 2-3 people don't even know what she's referring to (who have kids under the age of 3) and when she tries to explain, they go "Eh, never heard of that. We just do what the doctor says, don't really listen to what it's for." I mean, SERIOUSLY?!!? That's scary.WeeMasonMan's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13372708595243569250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741428981658989820.post-28139838234307433372011-08-24T09:08:00.445-04:002011-08-24T09:08:00.445-04:00Yep, I'm with you. Well sort of, if I had been...Yep, I'm with you. Well sort of, if I had been able to deliver vaginally (stupid fake aneurysm) I would probably have wanted the epi eventually, BUT it breaks my heart to hear the pain that some people have when they're not supported. I've seen and heard from people who years later are struggling with a decision that they feel was forced on them. <br />Good for you for knowing what you want and having a plan in place to make sure you get it.Krista @ Not Mommy of the Yearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04722992648038344727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-741428981658989820.post-19118579040114199532011-08-22T21:45:16.222-04:002011-08-22T21:45:16.222-04:00Good for you! You are right, depending on your hos...Good for you! You are right, depending on your hospital, it's just presumed you're going epidural. Mine does. To each her own but the key is having the knowledge to do what's best for you.@JessEscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04564630921806580046noreply@blogger.com